Events: free, interactive webinars

Communication, Including Nonviolent Communication
In these interactive presentations and workshops led by David B. Alexander, LP, we will study and experience importance aspects of communication and relationships.
We will also apply insightful and compassionate communication to issues or questions that the attendees bring in. If there are no issues or questions brought by attendees, the facilitator will provide sample situations for discussion.
As a psychotherapist, David has seen the value of these principles and has guided numerous couples and individuals to improve the quality of their communication and their relationships.

Modern Zen and Buddhism
Zen and Buddhism are, in essence, the same topic. Zen is known for its more concise expression, while the original Buddhist teachings discuss, with great care and detail, human nature and how to transform suffering. Each has its place!
Most important is helping reduce suffering in today's world, through wisdom and compassion attuned to the realities and choices of daily life.
As a long-time practitioner of Zen, David B. Alexander presents and discusses the meaning of this ancient teaching for each of us today. Zen and Buddhism are the study of and the connection with our true selves.
Upcoming events: all categories
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Saturday, April 26 · 11am EDT (1h 30m)
Most of us know karma as, basically, the concept that our thoughts and actions have consequences, whether immediately or at s…
Read moreMost of us know karma as, basically, the concept that our thoughts and actions have consequences, whether immediately or at some future time. Although that statement captures the basic principle of karma, there is significantly more to karma than that.
Another important teaching is the Four Immeasurables, which can be seen as a solution for creating good karma, leading to liberation. To find our true freedom we need to use our higher capacities as human beings, which help us break free from limitations. Actions that are "clean", and do not create bad karma, help us toward our own and others' liberation.
Our higher capacities allow us to cultivate a mind that frees itself from following past negative karma, gradually breaking those chains. By connecting to one's unlimited mind rather than to the narrow mind, we can help free ourselves and others from painful complications in living.
During and after the presentation we will discuss and practice these principles, and enjoy community.
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The teacher, David B. Alexander, has practiced Zen since 1970, with teachers at the New York Zen Center in the 1970s and 1980s, and most recently has been active at the Zen Mountain Monastery in Mt. Tremper, NY. He has been encouraged to share his knowledge by two leading Zen masters in New York City, and has also been practicing and teaching Tai Chi Chuan, a mind / body practice, since 1978. David is an active psychotherapist using gestalt therapy and nonviolent communication (NVC) in his work with individuals, couples, and business leaders.
The webinar meeting will take place online via Zoom. The webinar can be joined via ordinary phone, but for a full experience use of a computer will allow observing other attendees and those who are speaking.
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Saturday, May 3 · 11am EDT (2h)
Good communication makes for more enjoyable and enduring relationships, and more personal fulfillment. In this webinar, David…
Read moreGood communication makes for more enjoyable and enduring relationships, and more personal fulfillment. In this webinar, David B. Alexander, LP (licensed psychotherapist) will present some of the primary principles of Nonviolent Communication, and their application in daily life. After the presentation, there will be time for questions and answers. Discussion will also be invited as a way to engage those attending in a more direct way. See some testimonials below.
This will be an enriching, safe opportunity for learning how to deepen relationships of all kinds through better communication, including through authenticity towards oneself, achieving more often the results we desire.
As a psychotherapist, David has seen the value of these principles, and has guided numerous couples and individuals to improve the quality of their communication and their relationships.
Topics that will be covered include:
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Compassion vs. Labeling and Judgment
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Observation vs. Diagnosis and Evaluation
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Listening With Empathy
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Feelings, Needs, and Requests
- Liberation From Our Internal Programming
There will also be interactive exercises allowing participants to share connection with each other while becoming more aware of their own ability to communicate more fully.
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David's workshop on Nonviolent Communication was insightful, practical and interactive. I especially appreciated the time he took to listen to and respond to people's real-life communication challenges. Practical and thoughtful workshop especially relevant in today's turbulent times.
~ Terre Passero, President, Mindful Stress Management
I recently attended one of the online webinars hosted by this amazing psychotherapist and speaker. I was blown away by the depth of knowledge and wisdom that was shared during the session. I highly recommend attending one of his sessions in the future, you will not be disappointed!
~ Andrey Volodin, doctoral student and software engineer
I enjoyed every minute of the webinar. Your discussion of the important issues was very informative, useful and helpful. Your encouragement of us, the attendees, to participate and express our opinion was very valuable. I highly appreciate your professionalism, knowledge, experience, courtesy and patience.
The atmosphere at the meeting was very friendly and kind. I believe, no one (including myself) was uncomfortable in sharing the personal story(ies) and concerns. I further believe, that under your amazing guidance and leadership in the discussion, we all benefited from this meeting. Great job, David!
Thank you very much, and I look forward to your meetings in the future.~ Olga Ruh, Attorney
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Note: if any attendee does not wish to join in the discussion after the presentation, but prefers to observe and absorb, that preference will be respected.
The webinar meeting will take place online via Zoom. The webinar can be joined via ordinary phone, but for a full experience use of a computer will allow observing other attendees and those who are speaking.
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Saturday, May 17 · 11am EDT (2h)
Join me for an online, interactive introduction to Zen and Buddhism: the Middle Way, Four Noble Truths, Eightfold Path, and T…
Read moreJoin me for an online, interactive introduction to Zen and Buddhism: the Middle Way, Four Noble Truths, Eightfold Path, and Three Treasures. We will also discuss how to integrate the wisdom and energy of Zen and Buddhism into modern life. There is no fee for this event.
The lotus flower rises invisibly through mud and muddy water, and opens up pure and clean despite its history and surroundings. If we can keep on the right path while in the middle of activity and challenges, we can finally drop struggles of the past and live a life of true freedom and compassion.
The topics include a basic short history of Buddhism, primary principles, the impact of Zen, and integration with modern life.
The principles and concepts that are covered are:
The Middle Way: a crucial piece of understanding for maintaining one's balance and staying on a healthy and effective path towards self-knowledge.
The Four Noble Truths: these address the root meaning of Buddhism: an understanding that life not lived well is ultimately full of inadequacy and pain, but that with a right understanding and effort, we move towards being free of suffering, while helping life on this planet be more humane and awakened.
The Eightfold Path: addresses in a specific manner the key components for living the best possible life, a life that benefits self and others, that reduces suffering, and that leads to liberation.
The Three Treasures: concerns the elements that support following the path towards awakening and liberation.
We will also examine the direct expression used in Zen and how it captures the emotion and wisdom of life without using religious references, and will talk about how to see Zen and Buddhism as a modern teaching.
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Here are some testimonials from past presentations (not necessarily about Zen):
“I thought the the webinar was outstanding. Although I have some familiarity with the concepts of nonviolent communication, I felt that the webinar greatly expanded my knowledge in this area and gave me useful information and techniques that I can apply to improve my relationships with my family and friends.” ~ Ken Z.
“The amount of information was terrific, dialogue was great. I wouldn't change anything. I thought meeting everyone was wonderful and having the dialogue. I am interested in attending more webinars.” ~ Karen C.
“Perfect. Very Comfortable interaction. A professional presentation. I liked listening to your personal experiences and those of others.” ~ Michele F.
"I was impressed that people actually felt comfortable enough to share incidents / issues from their own lives. Suggests they felt comfortable with you." ~ Mary Ann H.
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The teacher, David B. Alexander, has practiced Zen since 1970, with teachers at the New York Zen Center in the 1970s and 1980s, and most recently has been active at the Zen Mountain Monastery in Mt. Tremper, NY. He has been encouraged to share his knowledge by two leading Zen masters in New York City, and has also been practicing and teaching Tai Chi Chuan, a mind / body practice, since 1978. David is an active psychotherapist using gestalt therapy and nonviolent communication (NVC) in his work with individuals, couples, and business leaders.
Note: if any attendee does not wish to join in the discussion after the presentation, but prefers to observe and absorb, that preference will be respected.
The webinar meeting will take place online via Zoom. The webinar can be joined via ordinary phone, but for a full experience use of a computer will allow observing other attendees and those who are speaking.
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